Mother India, May be its one and only country where people respect their country as mother land. Its very common in india to hear people calling it “Bharat Mata”, i.e. “Mother India”. There is no part in India where, people don’t worship “Maa Durga”, that too In different forms, complete 9 days are dedicated to worship “Maa”, these days are of course commonly known as “Navratri” (Nine nights).
Is this respect this worshipness, fake ? Is this all an illusion or Superstition. I am an Indian, that too a Brahmin, which is known to be a higher cast among people, now well, does not matters that much to me as long as other person is not a human being. I do believe in god, I do beleive in Maa Durga, Maa amba or whatever name you would call her.
Now this is just a cover letter what I am going to tell here is more about the state of girl, her feelings and her life. By what I have said above, I only want to present what a huge difference is in the thoughts and doings of so called, “Modern India”.
This is very recent Incident that happened in front of my eyes. This is not just a story an article but I have tried to express how a girl feels, when she has given no control over her life, When she can’t expect anything for herself, she can’t dream. She has to accept what she is offered.
Its not that She can’t fight for herself, But she is not “Arjuna” from “Mahabharata” to faught her parent and her family.
In this part I am just trying to convert the feelings of a Bride into words. Though I can’t feel exactly what she would have felt, I will try to explain the meaning of expressions on her face, a hopeless feel in her eyes, an acceptance for what is up ahead for her. I just hope that you could feel about a percent of what she would have felt.
This is a recent incident. I come to know that a relative or I would rather say a good friend of mine was getting engaged soon. Well, I was happy indeed to hear that. But this is where it starts.
They day I heard Shoma is getting engaged was a happy day of my life, afterall she was of age now.
“Hi mannu ! how are you?”, she asked. “I am good, thanks.” I replied. “Congratulations ! Its really good to hear that.” I said.
“Mannu, I want to discuss something important with you, do you have some time?”, she asked, she was sounding worried over the phone. And some little discussion went on.
After hearing all, she has to say, I was worried too. After All, Marriage is a big decision of life. I decided to pay her a visit personally. And I was there at her home.
“I can’t believe you agreed for this”, I told her. I really can’t beleive. “Its not my decision, papa has decided it and he has already left to see the boy” She told me. And I was shocked rather than surprised. She had not saw the boy, with whom she was going to spend her life. “Its all decided, and there is no denying now”, she said.
“How could that be? what was the point of her graduation her studies if this was the fate you had decided for her?”, I asked her mother. And she sounded as wounded as Shoma was, she said, “it was all decided by her papa, and now we can’t oppose it”.
“But at least you should talk to him, or talk to the boy if only he could understand the situation somewhat ”, I suggested. But I know its no use. “you know Shoma, the age is not my primary concern at the moment, its okay if the boy is younger than you in age, but I am worried that the boy is still under graduate, and of course no job”, I said. “I am worried about that too, but there is no point discussing this, papa has decided it already and I can’t fight my own family”, she said.
I knew there was no point to pull it further.
Now, She was sitting in a room, just about to see the boy for first time in real. It was only few hours left before the start of ceremony. I could see the uncomfortability in her eyes. The worries were now far much than her own life.
I said, “it’ll be alright soon”, and we both know these were just word of comfort, but there was no other choice left. I Remember that, only thought in my mind was that, I am living in 21st century and this is really happening. The boy and girl haven’t even seen each other except photographs.
Though, I know how she might be feeling at the moment, yet i asked to keep her off the thoughts and keep conversation going. “How are you feeling right now? what is that you have on mind yet?”.
“I am not ready for this”, she replied, “But its my age and parents had no other choice. Mannu, Life never stops for anyone, it keeps on, and so will I. But I am worried about parents, that how they will manage without me, would they take proper care of themselves?”.
I couldn’t say a word more. I was speechless. She was still worried about her parents, rather than her own future. “I can’t do anything now, whether I want or not, so i have to accept it.”. And I know what she was talking about. I had been same feeling a few days ago. That life never stops. You have to face your fears, you can’t always run.
She said so much, I was just listening, I couldn’t say much about it. All I was trying to do then was, giving her a few laughter a few smiles and some memories to remember. During rest of ceremony, I was only smiling, The only thought on my mind was, “You can try, you can fight, but no matter how hard you try, life runs in its own way”.
Why this article is a worthy candidate for you're thinking?
Consider the situation, the dilemma the girl was in.
A boy which was younger too younger than her in age.
No where to be compared with the girl in looks, as well as qualities.
currently undergraduate, studying in college, no guarantee of being able to get himself a good job.
Top most of there all, they both haven’t met once, until the moment of ceremony arrived.
Everything totally, un dreamed and un expected from girl’s perspective.
I have no more words to say, or to express what she would have felt at that time. How she would have prepared herself for this one big decision of life. All I could say to her was that, “take care and everything will be alright soon”.
After observing all that happened with Shoma all I can say is, that in a country where female is worshiped as greatest power of all, Maa Durga and her various forms, where female dedicates herself, selflessly to many relations as sister, mother, wife etc, She has got no life for her own, no power to decide her life, she has no will to choose her way. Would India see a day when women would truly be considered equal ?
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